06. Change the Scene

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06. Change The Scene

How many of you do it in the same place, the same way, almost every time? Once you've had a baby your marriage bed just ins't the same after the baby has pooped, spit up, slept, and nursed there. So it's about time you changed things up!!! 

Even though you might love and find tons of pleasure in your sex life, it is proven that the novelty of sex wears off through the years.  This is true with everything in our life, new things start off being thrilling and exciting, once we adapt to the situation and the newness  wears off it becomes ho-hum, routine, and monotonous. 

Shake it up a bit, bring the thrill and novelty back by changing the scenery! Fulfill fantasies, change positions, be daring, try something new, change the music, talk dirty, take a risk, buy a new toy, make your bedroom romantic, and change locations. 

Continue to bring that spark back to your love life after the baby by checking out previous HOT BABY BUMP tips by clicking HERE.

If you are just not in the mood and you need to get revved up, take a peek at BRINGING SEXY BACK. 

05. Lube

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05.  Lube

Your body takes a toll after childbirth.  You have to deal with all the crazy up and down hormones and dryness that come from nursing.  When you are making love you don't want to be hurting (a little or a lot of pain may be your thing, whatever makes you hot).  When your sleep deprived, mentally out of it, and attentions have shifted from your partner to your baby, pain could be a huge turn off.  Solve your problem by investing in an expensive top of the line product, this is not an area where you scrimp or go cheap.  Honestly, you can never have enough LUBE, when in doubt use more!!!    

Lube suggestion:  A great lube is EROS and stay away from water based, you want this stuff to stay on, not absorbed. 

04. Stop the Blame Game

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04.  Stop the Blame Game

You know this story...Many wives find themselves too tired for sex after a long day of taking care of kids, the house, random errands, taking care of the hubby, and possibly working outside of the home.  

Many women report that their spouse doesn't acknowledge how hard their lives are.  They say that they would have energy for sex if their husbands would help them with housework, help with the kids, and be more romantic or affectionate outside of the bedroom.  

Now the husbands also have their own reports.  Men get grouchy during the dry spells and need intimacy before they can be romantic or show other signs of love around the house.   

So how do we fix this catch 22???  The two of you just need to stop it!   Find a happy place, stop blaming your partner for not "getting" you in the mood.  The key is to find out how to feel good enough to make lovin' regardless of the day's circumstances.   What gets YOU to that happy place?  Spend 30 minutes or so each day getting in the mood!!!

03. Moan or Whisper

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03. Moan or Whisper

When it comes to heavenly sex we all want to get what we want, right? If we could get exactly what we wanted every time we would be on cloud nine. Sometimes we participate in a sexual experience hoping our spouse will read our minds. This is unrealistic, we need to be active participants in our enjoyment. 

Sometimes with kids around we find ourselves not looking forward to sex, not having enough energy for sex, or bored with the same sex routine. If you want to heat things up you are going to need to make some NOISE. It doesn't have to be panic alarm loud, but moans or whispers will heat things up. Moans or specific whispers let your partner know when they are doing things right. Add a little dirty talk or offer more suggestions to congratulate acts that you want repeated. I'm sure we all praise our kids with direct compliments and specific examples, this same technique will work wonders with your spouse. 

If this idea makes you blush, take baby steps. Start with moans and little whispers of praise then gradually move into more specifics when you're comfortable. Soon you'll find yourself daydreaming in the afternoon about what your honey said in bed the night before and you will be revving to get home and have sex no matter what the kids are up to!!! 

02. Date Night at Home

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02. Date Night at Home

Who says you need a sitter to pay attention to each other?  While your baby is taking a nap or has been put down for the night this is the time to seize the moment!!! Ignore all the distractions that might pull you towards the tv, work, computer, phone, etc.  This is coveted time for just the two of you!!!

Have items on hand for a quick date night at home.  Conversation cards, a yummy snack for two, a bottle of sparkling cider, a deck of cards, battery operated flameless candles, or a favorite board game.  No TV, computer, phones, or baby/kid talk allowed!!!

Focusing on each other for a few hours or a few minutes can make a huge difference.  As new parents you are so busy with the baby and life. All too often a whole day will go by without a single touch or glance at each other. By making some time to be together you'll feel more connected and in touch with each other.

Trust me if you spend more one on one time together you'll be more likely to start having more sex, too!!!

01. Talk About It

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01.  Talk About It

How many of you expecting mothers and fathers find yourself on a downward sex spiral? The wife doesn't feel good or is very self conscious. The husband is worried about financial stress of a new baby and might not like all the changes in his wife's body. Pregnancy brings along many challenges but also brings along many highlights. Having a rich sexual life during pregnancy is possible if you two communicate. If you are unsure about sex during pregnancy ask your health care professional to discuss any issues you have concerns about. Once you have cleared up those issues make sure you two keep all lines of communication completely open. If you can talk about sex you will find it easier to talk about pregnancy issues too. For the wife, mention when you aren't feeling so hot. Let your spouse know that you need his compliments to feel sexy. For men, remind your wife of the reasons you love her from the inside out and give her a plethora of compliments so she will feel desired and wanted. Don't second guess each other and try imagine what your spouse is thinking. Just put it all out there. This will be sure to help after the baby arrives too! When you both are tired, attention is being pulled here and there, and there is no longer downtime available, sometimes all anyone needs to hear is "I love you and you are so hot, but I have spit up in places I can't even see. Maybe tomorrow before we crawl out of bed?"