10 May 2013

08. Sext Her

 Bringing Sexy Back

08.  Sext Her

Men this tip is for you! If it's been awhile since you've sexted your wife, send one today! This will thrill your wife and transform her into the dirty girl you hope her to be. She will become a vixen at the touch of the button. Soon you will be thinking, "So much for sugar, spice, and everything nice!"

If you're like me, the more sexting tips and ideas you have the better. Take a peek at Sext It for a list of sexy texts that after reading, you will be using in a heart beat!

For more ideas on putting the sizzle back in your sex life check out Bringing Sexy Back.

09 May 2013

02. We've Grown Apart In The Bedroom

 Sex Stoppers

02. We've Grown Apart In The Bedroom

When life gets too busy, or too many frustrations build up, or being in the mood has been non-existent sex is easily put to the back burner. Soon weeks and months go by without even a thought of sex entering your relationship.  The thought of initiating sex seems forced, awkward, or unnatural. Yep, your sex life has flow out the window!

Fix It: 

Spend "quality" time together and reconnect in a non-sexual way first before heading straight to the sexual stuff. "Quality" time means one-on-one focused time together, free of kids, distractions, or complications.  

Daily-Schedule 30 minutes each day for drama and issue free one on one time to connect. These conversations should be free of judgement and a free space to talk about anything. 

Weekly- Schedule date night. Change up the norm, if movie and dinner is the normal date night switch it to a hike, breakfast in bed together, learning something new, bowling, or a stroll at the farmers market. Sharing these intimate moments together will help you reconnect and your desire for each other will blossom from there. Once you've built up that bond, suggest sneaking in a quickie when you're out on the town together. This will build up excitement and make it your own little secret, which will help to increase the bond and desire between the two of you. 

The Key:

Reconnect with focused "quality" time, build a bond, and bring back desire.

For more tips on getting in the Mood check out Brining Sexy Back

For previous Sex Stoppers and tips to overcome them click HERE.

08 May 2013

08. Get More Graphic

 Talk Dirty To Me

08.  Get More Graphic

Occasionally drop in the odd "bad" word and see how they react.  If they hear you using naughty words they will get the hint and do the same.

Don't worry this doesn't mean you have to be a sailor. You can use whatever words seem naughty to you and will make your spouse blush!

Out of the bedroom or in the bedroom I don't use swear words.  I never have and I don't know if I ever will. My hubby tends to have a naughty mouth for both of us in the bedroom. It's not shocking, gross, or disturbing, I love it!!! So I'm giving dirty talk a thumbs up, you should give it a try asap!

If you love talking dirty and want to add some more spice check out Spank It for role-playing tips and tricks!

For previous Talk Dirty To Me tips click -> HERE

07 May 2013

47. Instruct Him

 Bedroom Eyes

47.  Instruct Him

Men like to believe they know how to do everything and if they mess up they will figure out exactly how to fix it without any help. 

There is one area where your man will appreciate a few instructions, he will appreciate direction about what pleases you.  

No one likes a bossy mate so go about it in a clever way, unless he's into bossy!  Try using phrases such as these:  "It drives me wild when you ............................"  I get hot when you ............................"  When you touch my ........................... I become ............................"   These simple and direct statements can work wonders! 

If he is still not getting it than you need to be a little more direct.  Take him by the hand and show him exactly what you like.  Show him specifics of how you like to be touched.  Where do you like it?  How do you like it, light, firm, slow, or quick?

Instructions will benefit both of you and both of you will end up with a huge reward for all of your directions!!!

If you are feeling a little shy or hesitant to be specific with your partner then you need to check out Talk Dirty To Me tips. 

For previous Bedroom Eyes tips click --> HERE

06 May 2013

02. The Masseuse Parlor

 Spank It 

I am soo exited to introduce today's fun idea!  I have been working on this for way longer then I thought and it's way over due, but I promise you are going to love it.  I've seen this type of idea out there and I wanted to create something that would be exciting, surprising, and enjoyable for you to act out and put together. Are you ready to dive into the masseuse parlor! 

Do I have to mention that these Spank It cards are for couples in monogamous relationships, you don't want to dive into fantasy role playing with someone you are having a fling with because the experience is not as fun, supportive, or fulfilling, trust me!

A little side note for all of you...I am a licensed massage therapist and one thing we don't enjoy being called is a masseuse, so don't do it! A masseuse does quite a bit more then just massage, they provide happy endings, sexual favors, and a whole lot more! The only person who is allowed to call me masseuse is my hubby cause I'm definitely giving him happy endings!!

02. The Masseuse Parlor

Get excited for this fantasy, you two are going to love role-playing with these cards.  It will make the process smoother, less intense, and give you a confidence boost.  Click on "The Masseuse Parlor" photo below to dive into the scenario of Masseuse and Client and bit more. 

Rules of play: 

Set The Date

The two of you need to set aside a DATE NIGHT to fulfill your roles. Let's say you decided to SPANK IT this Friday...To give you plenty of time you would both take a peek at your individual cards today (ssh it's a secret, so don't spoil it!), print them off, and gather any needed props to help you complete the fantasy.  I'm going to say this several times because it's super important...Your cards and activities are a SECRET, so don't spill the beans quite yet, you don't want to spoil your night!

No Distractions 

If you have kids, get a sitter or swap for an overnight sleep over with another couple. You want to have plenty of time to play your roles without any distractions! 

Role Playing

You each have a card that's just for you, so don't share it with your sweetheart. Spank it date nights are certainly reasons to keep secrets! Remember you two want to have a rocking night, so get prepared to act your part by taking the time necessary to read your card over and over again and to practice. The goal is to make your honey weak in the knees! 


Your honey already loves you and is excited to spice up your spank it date night, so don't let embarrassment, shyness, or doubt creep into your mind! Both of you are feeling a little vulnerable and timid because you are trying something new, that's ok, remember praise and compliments go a long way, so give a lot of them while you are playing your roles! You're lover doesn't care if you don't play the role perfectly, because they don't know what you are supposed to do, which is why you keep your role playing card a secret! The key is to have fun playing another role, get lost in the character, and make your night HOT!!!

Spank It Cards

Each card will have a list of actions, props, tips, ect. to help you fulfill your role.  At the bottom of each card you will find a little note of encouragement and reminders from me, so don't skip over that, you'll hurt my feelings and besides I've got nothing but juicy things to say! 


It is important to pick your partner's brain about fantasy playing before you begin. If you took my advice last month, the two of you should have had plenty of time to discuss your Spank It role playing boundaries, likes and dislikes, ect by now.  

If you haven't, I need you to click on over to -> SHARE YOUR FANTASIES, I'll wait right here, so take your time reading and discussing. Welcome back to those of you who clicked on over to the previous share your fantasies post, let's continue! 

While acting out these roles remember the limitations you have set and don't cross boundary lines that are no-no's in order for the two of you to be comfortable, feel safe, and thrill in the experience. 


Each role card is not designated to a certain gender, which means either of you could play any role. After reading "The Massage Parlor Scenario", the two of you have decided which role you want to play, if you haven't yet, hurry and make the discussion. Ok, decisions are made and now you are dying to just play the game already...

So here we go, if you are playing the MASSEUSE, scroll down just a bit, click on your card, and print it off.  If you are playing the CLIENT, bypass the masseuse card, scroll down to the bottom, click on your card, and print it off. 


Hello, masseuse! Click on this card ONLY and print it off! If you peek at the client card you will eliminate the surprise, anticipation, and spice of the night.  So be a good boy or girl and just look at your own card!  Ready, set, click! This where your journey begins and your reading almost ends...Hurry and scroll down to the very bottom of the post for more goodies! Yes, I'm trying to kick you off the post as soon as possible, quickly scroll down, don't even look at the next card, so you aren't tempted in the least!


Hello, CLIENT! click on this card only. DO NOT PEEK AT THE MASSEUSE CARD! If you peek at the masseuse card you will eliminate the surprise, anticipation, and spice of the night.  So be a good boy or girl and just look at your own card!  Ready, set, click! 

You two are going to be one happy couple after your spank it date night!!!  Woo, Hoo, I'm excited for you!!! 

Maybe you're feeling like you just can't get in the mood for spank it, take a peek at Brining Sexy Back.

To take a look at the first Spank It click HERE