47. Instruct Him

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47.  Instruct Him

Men like to believe they know how to do everything and if they mess up they will figure out exactly how to fix it without any help. 

There is one area where your man will appreciate a few instructions, he will appreciate direction about what pleases you.  

No one likes a bossy mate so go about it in a clever way, unless he's into bossy!  Try using phrases such as these:  "It drives me wild when you ............................"  I get hot when you ............................"  When you touch my ........................... I become ............................"   These simple and direct statements can work wonders! 

If he is still not getting it than you need to be a little more direct.  Take him by the hand and show him exactly what you like.  Show him specifics of how you like to be touched.  Where do you like it?  How do you like it, light, firm, slow, or quick?

Instructions will benefit both of you and both of you will end up with a huge reward for all of your directions!!!

If you are feeling a little shy or hesitant to be specific with your partner then you need to check out Talk Dirty To Me tips. 

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46. Take Control of Your Pleasure

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46. Take Control of Your Pleasure

You've seen the movies scenes where everything is hot and heavy, they skip the foreplay and they both reach the peak at the same time.  Hopefully you have learned that the movies are pretend, you can forget what you see in the movies.  Fulfillment and ecstasy require a lot more work.  

Real life statistics: Only about 30% of women reach orgasm through penetration alone.   That leaves a huge number of us that need "hands-on help to reach the big "O."  

Women this tip is for you...It's not solely up to your partner to get you there.  You need to share in the responsibility to meet your own sexual pleasure, it's not fair to leave it all up to him.  When your partner needs an extra hand, provide yours.  Your help will make a huge difference and will help him pay attention to your other hot zones. 

Some women require a little extra help getting there.   Some men would like to help their lady climax more efficiently and more frequently.  If you are in this category check out Grown Up Toys. 

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45. Disrupting Meds

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45.  Disrupting Meds

Some medications such as blood pressure medications, birth control pills, and antidepressants can blunt your sex drive.  If you haven't been feeling as in the mood as you want, talk to your doctor.  Find out if your prescription could be putting a halt to all your frisky business.   You might be able to to lower the dosage or switch to a different medication to put that oomp back in your libido. 

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44. Squeaky Clean

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44.  Squeaky Clean

Remember those days when you were going steady and you would prepare for date night by showering, brushing your teeth, putting on clean undies, and making sure every inch of you smelled delightful? The moment you got married, you might have seen a decline in these hygiene habits and that is yucky news!  No one wants to go to bed with a stinky and dirty partner (unless that's your thing).  We want to kiss a minty fresh mouth not dingy dank ones.  The moral of the story, keep up on your hygiene:  shower daily, brush your teeth, use mouth wash, use toilettes to clean down there, and use deodorant to get yourself fresh and squeaky clean!!!

If you are searching for more tips on looking good for your spouse and keeping them in the mood, take a peek at No More Pajamas.  

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43. Breasts

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43.  Breasts

We all know our husbands love our breasts.  We love what our husbands do to them as long as they are doing it right!  So hubbies this breast play tip is for you! 

Putting your mouth on her breasts can be intensely sexy, but doing it wrong can be a huge turn off.   Sucking, licking, kissing, and finger play are highly enjoyable.  Add in some gentle biting, taking it easy, to spice it up a notch.  Breasts are delicate and sensitive, so don't forget to treat them appropriately.  If you're wife is into hardcore, than of course hard sucking, biting, intense pinching, and bruises are acceptable forms of breast play.  Also, it's important to remember that the entire breast needs attention, not just her nipples.  Use your mouth, tongue, fingers, and gentle teeth on the entire surface for very enjoyable results!   

42. Cater to Her

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42.  Cater to Her

Alright boys this is a tip that you want to pay attention to...

Learn how to cater to your woman fully.  Sometimes the simple things you do before love making will make her desire you more.  So take it slow, let her warm up to you, and enjoy the anticipation!

41. You Deserve Good Sex

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41.  You Deserve Good Sex

Your spouse doesn't care if you haven't lost your baby weight, if certain body parts sag, if you have a huge zit on your forehead, of if you've got cellulite for miles on end.   All of these things preoccupy our minds, making us self-concious, or placing limits on ourselves sexually.  Those thoughts about our imperfections don't matter.  

When your in bed and making love, your spouse isn't thinking about the cellulite on your legs or the zit on your forehead.  Your partner isn't worried about your little imperfections.  Those things are the farthest from their minds.  Most times, you are sensually BEAUTIFUL to them during intimate moments.  

Besides, you need to remind yourself that your partner isn't perfect either.  Let all those inhibitions go and remember you deserve good sex no matter what!!!

40. I Kiss You!

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40.  I Kiss You!

Spend a loving session kissing every scrumptious inch of your honey. There are probably many, many places you have never kissed before. No fooling around till all the kisses are done! Think of all the yummy anticipation this can be! 

39. Just Do It

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39.  Just Do It

Do you want to be an amazing lover who knows all the sweet spots and how to leave your spouse begging for more?  Of course you do, so here's a tip for all you perfectionists...Today's sexy tip is "Just Do It!"  Take the time to practice new or rarely tried positions, change up the scenery with lingerie or candles, and find new places to tease each other.   Take it slow it down and explore the ins and outs of each other, find new spots to tease to make him/her sigh and moan.  During and after your intimate practice talk about your highs and lows, what you like most, and give each other a few hints for next practice session.  So  "Just Do It" because practice makes perfect in the bedroom!

38. Married Sex is Great Sex

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38.  Married Sex is Great Sex

Being in a loving committed relationship enhances your sex life on many levels.  In a married relationship you have the benefit of trusting, loving, and sharing everything with each other.  This means that you should be able to share all aspects of your sexuality with each other as well.  Tell each other all your fantasies, experiment, and try new things.  Together discover the love life you have always dreamed of and make your desires come true with the man or woman you plan to grow old with.

37. No More Pajamas!!!

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37.  No More Pajamas

I've mentioned this before and I'm sure to mention it over and over again...It's not ok to let yourself go once you get married!!!  Men and women are equally guilty of this.  Just because you snagged your spouse it doesn't mean they no longer care about what you look like.  They love you for what you are on the inside as well as what you are on the outside.  If you feel it's ok to let yourself go you will find that this is a one-way ticket to problems with your sex life.  If you become aloof and no longer make the effort to be attractive for your spouse, they could become disinterested in having sex with you.  Keep your sex life steamy by maintaining or improving your looks.  So this means no more flannel pajamas in bed! When you slip into bed wear something that she thinks you look sexy in.  To her you could be sexy in her favorite T-shirt that she likes to snuggle up to you in, your tight briefs that show off your bum, or nothing at all!  This advice goes for the wife as well.  Wear what he thinks you look sexy in.  Don't be caught dead going to bed covered up from head to toe. Hopefully this will encourage each of you to put some imagination into your sleepwear!

36. Tantrums and Cold Shoulders

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36.  Tantrums and Cold Shoulders

If one of you is not in the mood, then the other should not Nag, complain, whine, throw a tantrum, give the cold shoulder, or bully the other into the sack.  This will harm your lovemaking in more ways then one, you will not get the satisfaction you need from lovemaking and it will ruin your bedroom play from here on out!!!

35. Healthy and Strong

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35.  Healthy and Strong

We all have heard that sex is good for your health, right?  But what you might not know is that the orgasm is what is good for a woman's health.  A study published by The Journal of Sexual Medicine indicates that women who have sex less than twice a month get sick more often than those who have regular orgasms.  Researchers from the Women's Health Program at Monash University in Australia did find that women who had more orgasms had higher levels of energy, fewer illnesses and a better psychological outlook.   Women can have sex on a regular basis and feel pretty good, but in order to reap the health benefits from sex she needs to reach the finish line. So fellows this means you can add sex to your wife's health regimen along with drinking enough fluids, eating enough servings of fruits and vegetables, and taking her daily vitamins.  Just make sure she orgasms-you want her to be healthy and strong!!!

34. No Kids Allowed

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34. No Kids Allowed

Make your room a no-kid zone

For those of you without kids this is going to be easy as pie. For those of you with kids, this may sound a little harsh, especially if your room is your children's second bedroom. In order to have a better sex life you need to take a step away from every day life and focus on each other. 

When you have children you find yourselves immersed in a life that soon seems to be run by those little kids you adore. They take over the house, over your sleep, and over your free time. Before you know it there isn't a space in the house that isn't consumed by your children. As parents you need to hold onto your relationship and set boundaries for your children, allowing them to see that your relationship is a priority. By loving each other above all else you will find that this is one of the best examples and lessons you can teach your kids. Focusing on each other will also help to keep your love life thriving! 

Show your kids that you love each other and need daddy and mommy time by creating a space in your home that is for adult-only activities. A convenient room for this space is your bedroom. Once your kids learn that your room is off-limits you will be more likely to have time and space to yourselves on a regular basis. Your bedroom will become a room that is only about the two of you and will become a haven where you can sneak away for tons of naughty uninterrupted adult time!!! 

33. Caresses and Tugs

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33.  Caresses and Tugs

Women try this little trick the next time you find yourself making love doggy style.  Reach between your legs and caress your mans testies and perineum.  Tug on his testies every now and then to add a little spice.  Tease him and keep him guessing as to what you're going to do next.  Be careful though, this is sure to send him over the top quicker then you might want.  So time this extra play accordingly!

32. Sext Her

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32.  Sext Her

Men this sex tip is for you!  If it's been awhile since you've sexted your wife, send one today!  This will thrill your wife and transform her into the dirty girl you hope her to be.  She will become a vixen at the touch of the button.  Soon you will be thinking, "So much for sugar, spice, and everything nice!" 

31. Stop Thinking of Her as Your Wife...

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31.  Stop Thinking of Her As Your Wife

She's more then just your wife...so stop thinking of her as your wife!

Of course, she is the love of your life, the woman you want to be with forever, and the mother of your children.  She runs your household and family like a champ while succeeding in many other duties. 

So, yes your wife is all those things but if you want to make sex better, then try to stop thinking of her as the woman you adore and cherish when you get naughty.  Let your imagination run wild and tap into your fantasies.  Think of the woman in your bed as a dirty seductress, a mysterious temptress, or a naughty stranger and encourage her to play the part.  Focus on the severe attraction you two have for each other and forget that you are husband and wife. 

30. Get Past Ruts

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30.  Get Past Ruts

You will face times in your marriage when family, kids, careers, friends, hobbies, church, and other important chores will bombard your schedule and get in the way of sustaining a healthy relationship.  Once you let things get in the way of focusing on your marriage relationship you will hit times when the two of you are not communicating well and not quite connecting like you used to.  When you hit these RUTS in your marriage, don't let sex take the back seat!  When the two of you have free time, get frisky!  If you are on a down spiral, it will dip even further if the two of you don't connect sexually.  When trouble or distance comes your way don't neglect your sex life, instead use sex to get back on the up and up.  

29. A Little Different???

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29.  A Little Different???

So this question is for the girls but of course any guy responses are welcomed as well...Why is it that if you were to walk in on your husband masturbating you would be upset and disturbed by this act? On the flip side we all know that if he walked in on you pleasing yourself he would be turned on and wanting a front seat view. Is this male and female response different because of how our brains work, or is it that as women we want to feel like we are enough, or is it because of stereotypes, or something else completely?

Inquiring minds want to know!!! 

28. Bedroom Exercises

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28.  Bedroom Exercises

Kegels isn't just an exercise to do out of the bedroom. Try a few squeezes during intercourse and you'll notice it's not just an exercise but a nice addition to your love play.