02. We've Grown Apart In The Bedroom

 Sex Stoppers

02. We've Grown Apart In The Bedroom

When life gets too busy, or too many frustrations build up, or being in the mood has been non-existent sex is easily put to the back burner. Soon weeks and months go by without even a thought of sex entering your relationship.  The thought of initiating sex seems forced, awkward, or unnatural. Yep, your sex life has flow out the window!

Fix It: 

Spend "quality" time together and reconnect in a non-sexual way first before heading straight to the sexual stuff. "Quality" time means one-on-one focused time together, free of kids, distractions, or complications.  

Daily-Schedule 30 minutes each day for drama and issue free one on one time to connect. These conversations should be free of judgement and a free space to talk about anything. 

Weekly- Schedule date night. Change up the norm, if movie and dinner is the normal date night switch it to a hike, breakfast in bed together, learning something new, bowling, or a stroll at the farmers market. Sharing these intimate moments together will help you reconnect and your desire for each other will blossom from there. Once you've built up that bond, suggest sneaking in a quickie when you're out on the town together. This will build up excitement and make it your own little secret, which will help to increase the bond and desire between the two of you. 

The Key:

Reconnect with focused "quality" time, build a bond, and bring back desire.

For more tips on getting in the Mood check out Brining Sexy Back. 

For previous Sex Stoppers and tips to overcome them click HERE.

01. Frustrations

 We have all heard these statements (maybe not in our personal lives but in our friends *wink), "I've got a headache" or "I'm too tired, I need to sleep" or "I've got too much on my mind."  Chances are these statements are more true then not, even though people don't want to admit it.

Are we just not interested or do we have too many things in our lives that we are constantly pulling us away from enjoying our partners sexually?  Personally, I'm choosing the idea that we love sex but we are just too busy mentally or physically to fit it in.

Sex Stoppers is going to point out the reasons you are saying no to sex and yes to something else.  Noticing the issue is the first step to making a change. Use these facts to get yourself out of these ruts and back in the sack!

Sex Stoppers

01. Frustrations

Women tend to be sexually frustrated because they are not getting what they need in the sack.  What leads to this?  Women don't like to feel like a "piece of meat" or a "booty call" or a "mounting block". If she feels she fits into one of these categories she is less likely to be turned on for sexual pleasure.  All of these pent up feelings result in lack of satisfaction. A majority of women want to experience more intimacy, more foreplay, more stamina, and more endurance from their partners.

Fix It:

Talk about it, be direct, kind, and ask for what you want!!!  You should be able to talk about your expectations in the bedroom way before you do the deed! If you can have sex, there are no excuses for not being able to talk about it!  When you discover what you want and need, it is important to inform your partner. Sadly our partners aren't mind readers, they need direction and guidance.  As you communicate about your sexual desires your partner will understand what turns you on and what they need to do in order to satisfy you. 

If you need a little more help getting over being shy or figuring out how to take control of your pleasure click HERE.