Putting up the tree

with thanksgiving right around the corner i start thinking of traditions. one of my favorite traditions is to decorating the Christmas tree together on black friday. This is a great tradition to start. Play Christmas music and sing along, have hot chocolate, and watch a Christmas movie. When you have kids make this a family event. Make sure to take time out for just the two of you.  Put the kids to sleep and purchase or make an ornament that revolves around your love story. Talk about what you are most thankful for this year or share memories of your best Christmas’ together while baking a Christmas treat. xoxo ♥

blissful tip:

If you want to have a blissful relationship, don't ruin the chances by introducing things into your relationship until you are ready for it. I'm constantly bewildered when people can't figure out why they keep having failed relationships when they muddle them with physical intimacy.

 

It's fairly common for couples to kiss on their first date, begin caressing soon afterwards and start a sexual relationship within a few weeks or months of knowing each other.

I'm going to boldly state that our bodies and minds are not designed for sexual relationships until marriage/life-time commitment. The two go hand and hand and to try to separate them causes a lot of emotional turmoil in our relationships.

Sex is wonderful and very special and saving it for the wedding night is treating it as something special. Sharing it with practically everyone you date makes it rather ordinary.

I've talked with quite a few people who waited to begin a sexual relationship until they were married and none of them have regretted it. I've chatted with numerous people who began a sexual relationship before the wedding and practically all of them had
regrets.

Now, I am NOT advocating that you blindly marry someone without knowing their thoughts, ideas, dreams and wishes are regarding sex.
Questions about sex should be discussed prior to marriage. 

While waiting to have sex until you are married won't guarantee a blissful relationship, it will certainly cause your mate to honor
and respect you much more than if you didn't.

Love, marriage and sex -- let's keep them in that order. xoxo ♥

03. Aphrodisiac Oils

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03. Aphrodisiac Oils

Oils with these scents are believed to have aphrodisiac qualities: sandalwood, ylang ylang, black pepper, orange blossom, rose, cardamom, patchouli, jasmine and clary sage. 

xox ♥

It's the little things...

Giving postcards or "hints" about a future secret location date to tease and build anticipation. xoxo ♥

charms to treasure:

an anniversary tradition idea: give your spouse as many red roses as married years. each anniversary think of a creative way to deliver the roses. Continued below is an idea for an anniversary in the teens:  Place a stem tube of water on each rose. Arrange with neighbors, friends, coworkers who live near you, even their parents to deliver a rose to your spouse on your anniversary. Spend the day before your anniversary delivering the roses. When the alarm goes off on the morning of your anniversary pull out rose #1 from under the bed and gave it to them. #2 and #3 they soon will get as they wake your children for school. All day long people will continue to show up at the door with a rose. Have the coworkers take their lunch break to deliver so they can be in on it. Upon coming home from work, bring the few left overs to complete the set. The cost will only be slightly more than usual, but the effect will be immeasurably greater. xoxo ♥

Amateur comedy show

Amateur Comedy Show: Laugh it up during open mic night at a comedy club. Admission rates are cheaper when you watch amateurs take the stage. xoxo ♥

let's talk:

let's talk: What is it about newlyweds that set them apart from couples who have been married for years? Here is my list of observations.  You might be mistaken for a newlywed if you...Often hold hands in public. Display other proper affection in public: wrapping arms around each other, casually kiss, gently stroke another's hair from time to time Refer to each other with endearing terms like *my bride* or *my handsome husband.* Want to be near each other in social occasions, not as far apart as possible. Refrain from insulting one another. Comment how beautiful, kind, smart, caring, etc. your mate is to others. Make each other smile or laugh often. If people don't mistake you for being newlywed, then ask yourself why.

What blissful tips do you have to keeping your marriage fresh?

xoxo ♥

blissful tip:

It is a well-documented statistic that couples that have dated for a year or longer before marriage have a significantly lower rate of divorce than those who married after a short dating period. A year of dating gives time for many emotions to surface and many character traits to be discovered.  You may adore someone in the spring, but despise him or her in the winter. Asking someone for his or her hand in marriage on the third date isn't romantic. It's gambling.

Xoxo ♥

02. Romantic Word of the Day

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02.  Romantic Word of the Day

In order to keep passion in a relationship alive, there are times we

must drop what we are doing and be romantic. In order to keep myself primed for doing this, I created *The Romantic Word of the Day*.

Only I know the word (which is chosen in the morning by me). It may

be the word "ecstatic," or "appreciate," or "beautiful," or

any other word that may or may not arise during that

day. But, when it does, I must drop what I am doing, and take a

few minutes time out for love and affection. Which, quite often, gets

met with a wonderful response.

Can't think of a better way to enrich my vocabulary and my

relationship!  

the little things:

Taking a picture of something romantic (like a large love note) for your sweetheart to find when he or she develops the roll or looks at the photos on the camera. xoxo ♥

so they say:

Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a compliment, or a small act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around. 

 if love is the driving fuel, come journey with me, and fill me again....carol E. Duron

xoxo ♥